The Infertility Guidebook

You guys, the infertility process is hard.

It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in my life. Not just because of the emotional rollercoaster that consumes your entire life, but because infertility is a huge world of unknowns.

The complete guide to the infertility process: from Clomid, all the way to IUI, IVF, and FET.

The unknowns about what’s next. The unknowns about what’s happening. The unknowns about your whole entire future.

I’m a planner. I generally like to know Plans A, B, C, and D. And steps 1 – 5 under each of those plans. And the contingencies for each of those steps to happen.

I need all of this information from the get-go, in order to even process what to do next. My brain is basically the Game of Thrones title sequence, spinning and morphing all over the place.

Game of Thrones Intro

But with infertility treatments, there are a million different paths, and very little information available on any of them.

This was the hardest part for me. I Googled all the live-long day trying to find answers and to make a plan for myself, but was mostly just left frustrated and confused.

Your Guide to the Infertility Process

Enter: The Infertility Guidebook.

I’ve talked about my infertility journey pretty extensively here. I’ve covered everything from how following my instincts led to our second miracle baby, to tips for what NOT to say to your infertile friends, to the aftermath of infertility and dealing with leftover embryos.

It’s been cathartic to share our personal journey openly, but I’m even more excited to share helpful, real information about the infertility process that could help others who are going through it and perhaps feeling a little lost.

Each section of this Infertility Guidebook covers a step in infertility, each one detailing the treatment options, testing, treatments, meds, and rough cost estimates.

Of course, keep in mind that everyone’s journey is very, very different, and this is largely based on mine. I’ve tried to weave in information from things other friends of mine have gone through to make it more well-rounded, but obviously your own doctor is the only one who’s able to give you information on your own body.

Venture through the guidebook below, and let me know what else you want info on.

And most importantly, if you have an infertility success story, I’d love to hear it in the comments! If this page ends up filled with stories of hope for those in the trenches, that would be my best case scenario.

The Infertility Guidebook

  1. Diagnosis
  2. Clomid
  3. RE Consult
  4. Femara + Injectables
  5. IUI
  6. IVF
  7. FET
  8. …and Beyond

*This should go without saying, but this is the internet and therefore it doesn’t: I’m not a doctor, and you need to consult your doctor about any kind of medical treatment and options specific to you.

Infertility will tear you down, if you let it. But find your support, find your motivation to keep going, because you got this. Move that mountain!


  1. Wow! This is by far one of the best and most informative post I have found on the journey of Infertility! Thank you so much, I found it incredibly helpful! My husband and I have been trying for 2 years and have recently decided to start seeking a medical help! Thank you for giving me some guidelines on what to expect!!

  2. Great post and resources! I have quite a few friends that have struggled over the years. I’ll forward this to them.

  3. This post is very eye opening, my husband and I are starting to try and get pregnant and infertility is something that looms over me, because it was an issue with my mom and my aunt when they both tried to conceive. This post will be saved for futur reference. Thank you!

  4. I love this post, so informative. I, myself is dealing with infertility and blogging about it, hoping to inspire others who are struggling 🙂

  5. I know very little about this subject. This is really interesting to read, and so valuable, to help the rest of us have a better understanding of what our friends may be experiencing!

  6. I can so relate! I only suffered from infertility for four years but it was one of the hardest times of my life. This guide is great. Do you know that RESOLVE has a national infertility awareness week the end of April with a blogging challenge? You submit your infertility post and they take the best one and post it on their website. It’s kind of a cool idea.

  7. Thanks for sharing! I have a few friends who are unfortunately experiencing infertility. Since I have never experienced it I am usually lost for things to say… I will definitely now share this post! I’m also going to check out your post on what not to say to avoid putting my foot in my mouth!

  8. I’ve never experienced infertility so can’t really say I can relate. However, it is always so heartwarming to see that there are people out there that are willing to help and share info that can be beneficial to those who are going through something of this nature. Although I have gone through it, it is very informative to read about.

  9. I’ll definitely be keeping this in my back pocket for friends as they are starting to look at trying for families, since my husband and I were lucky enough to no face struggles. Like with Melody, my parents tried for 11 years to have me. They both wanted a big family, but alas were only able to have one child. Thank you for being so open and putting all this out there for other moms. You can read everything on google, or hear it from your Dr. it always helps to hear about someone else’s experiences in similar situations.

  10. Wow, this is such an interesting, informative post. My mother went through a lot of this back in the 80s to try and conceive, but my parents finally lucked out with adoption and got me and then my brother 2 years later. I also had to go through the very clinical, not very romantic insemination process so that my wife and I could have a baby (which we finally do!). I love that you’re being so open and so so helpful to people who may be struggling with having their own little one for whatever reason! Thank you for this post!

    • Thanks Melody! I’m sure your parents already showered you and your brother with this regularly, but you should know how truly loved and wanted y’all were! That is the one part of infertility that’s universal. ☺️ So glad you and your wife were successful too!

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